Posted by Dave Lorenzo - Business Coach
What’s so special about those people who always seem to manage to accomplish whatever they set out to do, who appear to have their own personal spotlight shining down on them ‘round the clock? Are they born with it? Do they have all the luck? Are they fated to be winners? Unlikely. Below are ten shining qualities that most superachievers share, traits that propel them beyond the masses into dizzying success, and ten concrete ideas on how to foster these characteristics in yourself:
Confidence: Confident people believe wholeheartedly that they will accomplish their goals and bring their dreams to life. The believe that they are worthwhile people who have a tremendous amount of value to offer their business associates, friends, and loved ones. Confident people do not think they can accomplish anything in the world, and they are not free of doubts—in fact, they make a point of trying to maintain realistic expectations of themselves. What makes them unique is that if they fall short of those expectations, they forgive themselves and immediately set to work making great things happen.
To build self-confidence, give yourself credit for everything you try and everything you accomplish. For the next month, write down all the things you achieve. Eventually, you will internalize these self-affirming thoughts and translate them into words and behavior.
Persistence: Successful people have firm resolve. They make strong commitments to their plans and do not give up. Small steps taken today lead to great rewards in the future, and motivated people know that making regular investments yields tremendous long-term gains.
The best way to develop persistence is to make a habit of setting goals and accomplishing them. The benefits of even short-term commitments will quickly become visible. Write down a goal every day, or week, and make it happen.
Honesty: You don’t have to be honest to get ahead, but deception and mistruths will always catch up to you sooner or later. Once they do, you undo all the work you’ve done to get to where you are. If you lose trust, you lose business and opportunity.
Most people fail to deliver on their word when they guarantee to do what they are not able or willing to do. Never promise more than you can give. It’s much better to promise too little and surprise someone with extra than to promise too much and let them down.
Humor: A little bit of humor makes any difficult situation more bearable. Angry clients, uptight supervisors, and problematic coworkers can all be softened with a touch of it. You can’t take yourself too seriously.
To cultivate the lighter side, step back and take a good look at yourself from time to time. Are you being ridiculously Type A, controlling, negative, narrow minded? Laugh at yourself. Doing so instantly relieves stress and tension.
Integrity: Having a reputation for doing the right thing and treating people well will take you further than any amount of sharp shooting or crafty dealing. Integrity lasts, and no one can compromise yours. In this harried, modern world, real integrity and steadfast commitment to one’s word is rare. We all appreciate people we can count on to fulfill their promises and stand by their values.
Integrity is most often compromised when people enter into situations or agreements that do not suit their needs or purposes. Be clear with yourself about your intentions and desires.
Compassion: Showing empathy for your business partners and clients demonstrates that you are on their side. When a counterpart feels understood, she is naturally more open and trusting, and the relationship has room to move in a positive direction.
Try to put yourself in the customer’s position. What is his problem, and how can it be solved? When you get in touch with that, you will understand what you can do to benefit him and secure your relationship.
Dependability: Your business partners must feel that they can depend on you. They’re never going to trust you with the big projects unless they do. Superachievers ensure that their word is gold, and their customers turn to them first and recommend them to others. The boss will always call upon the most reliable person to work on a special project, and that puts you in position for salary increases and advancement opportunities.
Make your commitments top priority. Other things can wait, but the tasks to which you pledge your time and energy need to come first.
Enthusiasm: If a client or business partner can see that you have passion for your work or their project, they will naturally be drawn to you. Enthusiasm is an energetic force that makes amazing things happen. Superachievers are never blasé about their lives or futures.
The simplest way to increase enthusiasm in your work is to do things you love. If you are uninspired by your current projects, try to branch out into other areas. Offer to do the tasks that appeal to you. If you lack inspiration and motivation, you’re probably just in the wrong field or circumstances.
Patience: Only in very rare cases does whopping success arrive overnight. Most of the time, lasting success is the result of years of hard work. You have to look at the big picture, view overall progress, and keep putting in the time.
What helps me be more patient is to find ways to relax, release tension, and undertake activities I enjoy, which are separate from work. Establishing good balance in your life removes the sense of desperation you might feel about crossing that finish line.
Respect: Successful individuals respect themselves and others. They consider the perspectives even of competitors and embittered customers and work to resolve problems quickly. You have to take your business associates seriously and treat them as equals. Equally important, you have to treat yourself well and pursue the life you really want.
People who respect themselves tend to show others more respect. Take good care of yourself in every way you can. Make smart decisions about your health, money, relationships, goals, career, and free time.